I promised to meet you here daily to share my daily meals and my workouts, but I let you down.See, life got in the way. My grandma is having a life threatening health condition and since last Sunday, we weren’t/aren’t sure how much longer she has with us. Amongst this stressful situation, I’m dealing with some heavy family issues that has been eating away at me severely for the past two years, emotionally and physically. So naturally, I’ve allowed myself to break yet another promise.
But is this really the best thing I could have done?
I do this all the time. I set goals for myself to only let life interrupt me. The same interruptions that normal people have every day. What makes me so special?
I have no excuse, and I hate that I have let myself and you down yet another time. I’m growing rather tired of letting myself down in rarely achieving my goals, so today is the day I end it all-quitting, that is.
I vow to quit quitting.
From here on out, I will be planning my posting schedule and will be sticking to it, regardless of whatever life hands me. Just writing here in this post, right now is showing me I haven’t quit, so I’m on the right track.If you find yourselves on a similar path, don’t let the “all or nothing” approach get the best of you. If you can’t commit to 100%, 95% is pretty darn good too!
This site I built for myself is not a place where I want to take for granted, but as a place I can share with all of you, collectively, to be a positive and insightful platform. I will not see this as a chore, but as a place I can curl up and hang out for a bit-like a second home. Because that’s what I already feel, and I don’t want to neglect my home. It’s what takes care of me!
Here are 5 steps that help me get back on track with my goals when life hands you lemons:
- Jump right back in. Like I said before, it doesn’t have to be 100% to be progressive. Are you trying a goal or something for the first time? 10% is better than 0%. 15% is better than 10%, and 50% is better than 45%. As long as you’re trying to be better or doing a little more than you did last time, you’re moving in the right direction.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. Be only in competition with yourself. Others have their own journey, and are handed different varieties of lemons than you. Some are sweeter, some are more sour. The point is, we’re all different and we must work with what we are dealt.
- Plan. Plan. Plan. or plan to fail. Pretty self explanatory. If I don’t write a list of things that need done, they’ll never get done. My head is so full of ideas, goals, thoughts, to-dos, and my little nagging voice than once a thought is there, it’s gone too quickly if I don’t write it down on good ol’ fashioned paper.
- Set short and long term goals. I am impatient. I have the mindset of wanting something now, so I usually fantasize about the end goal. This is your long term goal. Now, in order to actually get there instead of just fantasizing about it, write small term goals that will help you jump to the next rock without falling into the rushing water that will take you further away from your goals.
- For example, if you want to run a marathon (that’s 26.2 miles, people!) you wouldn’t begin with running 15 right away, would you? You’d probably get frustrated after the 5 mile mark (if you can get that far and if so, good for you!) and give up. But if you set goals to reach the first 3, then 5, then 10, and so on, you’ll be able to celebrate these goals that will make you want to get to the 26.2 miles. You crazy thing.
- Be easy on yourself when things don’t go as planned. Yes, plans are good, but they don’t go exactly how we want them. That’s called LIFE. So if you’re anything like me, you’ll be really hard on yourself for not being perfect and want to call yourself a failure. This is the worst thing you can do because if you talked that way to another being, chances are they’d quit-so why talk to yourself this way? Instead, allow yourself time to take a break, heal if need be, and when you’re ready you can continue. Talk to yourself the way you’d talk to a person you love. After all, you should be the first person you love, am I right?
What about you? Have you started something that you find you can’t keep up with? Are you an “all or nothing” person like I am, or can you take baby steps?